“The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating.The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts”
Proverbs 18: 6 – 8
I hear your whispers,
I hear you whispering about my past transgressions,
I hear you whispering about my past with women,
I hear you whispering about my mistakes and how horrible you think I am,
I hear it all.
I know that you think you know me but you don’t,
You don’t know what I have been through,
And you don’t know my story,
I hear you whispering,
But I refuse to let your insecurities destroy me.
I feel your judgment and your scrutiny. You might think that the person you told to kept it to themselves did, but they did not. You might think the stories, news, and tea that you spill is harmless, but it is not. You might think that your whispers are all fun and games, but they are destroying people. They almost destroyed me.
Your whispers almost took my self – esteem and my joy. I almost believed the stories that you tell other people about me and I almost believe that I was the demon that you make me out to be. Your whispers almost ended my life. It almost made me feel like I did not have a purpose or that I was too far gone to be helped.
I am sharing this not for sympathy but because I want you to know that gossip hurts people and it ruins lives. Most people think it is harmless, but it is very harmful. People might not always say it, but they are struggling on the inside with the gossip and false stories that fly around about them.
Even the story is true, why do you need to hurt someone to feel better about yourself or to be liked by someone else.?
Why do you feel the need to make jokes and talk about sensitive things at the expense of someone else? Is that how you want to be treated? If you had a child, is that how you would want them to be treated?
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit”
Proverbs 18: 21
It is time for us to wake up and see the effects our actions. We often talk about mental health but yet we play such a huge role in its destruction by gossiping or whispering. The truth is that it is unnecessary and that we should stop putting people down to advance our selfish interests. It is not cool, and it is something that I hope is left in 2019.
One of my goals for 2019 is to level up in a mental and emotional sense. Gossip has been one of my biggest challenges and I know that I am not alone. I hope that if you find yourself relating to what I’ve said is that you can continue to be strong. I have that you find your purpose and a supportive environment to nurture it. I hope that your identity will come from the one who created you and not what people say about. I pray that you preserve, and I pray that you excel. Above all, remember that you are never alone. If you need to talk then reach out to me or someone you trust. We are stronger together as iron sharpens iron and we cannot rise up until we get rid of the baggage keeping us together.
Whatever you are going through, be strong and keep fighting You might get tired, but it is dark and joy cometh in the morning. Always remember that perseverance is rewarded through retrospection and the process is the prize. Let’s continue to rise up through anything that may try to keep us down especially the whispers of people are just insecure about themselves at the end of the day.