The next year will be hard for you. Your life will change drastically, and you will be faced with some life-altering events. You may not know it now, but you are not living life according to your purpose, values, and ideals. The next couple of months will be uncomfortable but you will grow exponentially as an individual, as a leader and as a servant of God. The trial, challenges, and tribulations that you face throughout the next year will push you to your breaking point. It is at that breaking that you will realize that you were full of pride and arrogance. It is also at that breaking point that you will discover your purpose and learn the importance of humility. The process is not always pleasant or glamorous, but you cannot create a diamond without pressure or bloom without being planted. As your future self, I wanted to give you some advice that will help you to endure the process and fulfill your personal mantra of becoming the best that you can be. Specifically, I wanted to talk to you about your relationships and the role of public opinion in your life.
Over the next year, you will lose a lot of friends and you will realize that you cannot trust everyone. I implore you to find yourself first before you try to find yourself in others. Take time to reflect on your likes, dislikes, values, goals, ideals, personhood, family life, and everything else that make you unique. Also, take time to build a solid relationship with the Lord God as this relationship will come to serve as the foundation for you to rebuild your life on. As you rebuild your life on a strong foundation, be wary of those who you allow to pour in your cup.
Your cup is synonymous with your life so whoever you surround yourself will determine what is most prominent in your life. If you are surrounded by gossipers or judging eyes, then don’t be surprised when you are the subject of gossip or harsh judgement. I know you feel displaced in certain groups and that feeling is your internal alarm system trying to let you know that the group that you are in is not the right group for you. It is trying to alert you that your group of choice is not compatible to who you are, and I am here to tell you to stop trying to fit into groups that do not align with your goals, visions or values. Stop trying to be friends with people who do not help to make you a better person or who do not push you to be a better person. For example, if the presence of someone in your life makes you want to do things that you are uncomfortable with instead of inspiring you to be greater then you need to reevaluate such a presence in your life.
Focus on creating meaningful relationships that will last a lifetime instead of sub-quality relationships that will get you likes on Instagram or invites to social events. Focus on developing relationships that are centered on professional and philosophical discussions instead of gossip and comparisons. Treat everyone you meet with kindness, love, and compassion but be wary of those who you deem your friend or those who you allow influencing. Always remember that your relationships are not only a reflection of you but a guiding light in your life.
The opinions of others should not be a guiding factor in your life. The truth of the matter is that not everyone is going to like you. You might never have the most likes on an Instagram picture and you might never have the most followers either. Your name will be in gossip and someone will always have something negative to say about you. Participating in gossip or accumulating countless accolades won’t make people like you either and that is perfectly okay. You are not inadequate, lesser than or an evil person if others don’t like you. Even the Pharisees didn’t like Jesus and he never sinned or wronged them. He was kind, loving and the perfect individual yet he was still the subject of gossip and public disdain.
If Jesus Christ and other notable figures such as Barack Obama or Martin Luther King Jr. had haters, then you should consider yourself among an elite class of individuals. While breaking free from the bondage of public opinion is going to be hard, it will be rewarding. By breaking free of public opinion, you will be able to live according to your purpose, ideals, and values. You will be able to live a life that brings you joy instead of one that is focused on pleasing others. One of the first and most important things that you will need to do is to sever your dependence on social media during this period in your life. It has become very toxic and you will not be able to grow as long as you are comparing your life to the seemingly picture-perfect lives of others on social media. It is my hope that you will stop letting the opinions of others dictate how you live and that you would start to live in alignment with your vision and purpose.
September 11 will always be remembered for its devasting impact on the world, but you will also remember it as the day that your life flipped upside down. I don’t know if you have received the dreadful news yet but be strong and joyful. Life is going to get rough for a couple months, but you are planted not buried. You are about to embark on a journey of enrichment, not destruction. You will cry, and you will be in pain but do not lose hope. I want you to remember that the Lord God has already promised you deliverance, but he is working through you to save yourself. Be patient and know that your time of elevation is coming. No matter the obstacle, it is your time to rise up and it is your time to soar!
Your future self,