A farmer’s job is to grow plants that produce food, but the farmer does not literally make the plant grow. The farmer may water, plow, till and apply fertilizer to the soil which may encourage growth but is not necessarily connected to it. The seed went through a process in the soil which allowed it to bear fruit.
Similarly, the seeds of our lives are our passions, dreams, and goals. The seeds of our lives also need to undergo a process in order for them to become fruitful. Most times we want the fruits without the process but that is not the case. A process is necessary in order for one to be able see results. If processes were not a necessary ingredient for results then people would not need to conduct experiments because they would know already the results. If it is your passion to give back to your community then you must give to yourself first because no one can pour from an empty cup. In order for one to fill their cup, they must experience something because filling one’s cup is a process. If one dreams of being a doctor or lawyer, then there is a process through formal education that enables such individuals to achieve their dream. If it is someone’s goal to be the fastest man alive or to be in the NBA, then there is a formal process to get there as well.
Not all processes are formal though, sometimes the simplest occurrences can also lead to a change in our lives such as relationships and special occasions such as funerals and marriages. You know you have experienced a process when you reflect on your past and are able to acknowledge the lessons that an experience or a compilation of experiences have taught you. Personally, one of the major changes in my life that occurred over multiple experiences was becoming a socialite. When I was younger, I was an incredibly shy child and now I am an outspoken individual who runs a public blog. And If I’m being honest, I do not remember when the change occurred, but I do know that the change was a result of multiple life events that forced me out of my comfort zone such as migrating to America and attending three different high schools including a boarding school before I got my diploma. Each time I had to move was a drastic change because I had to start over from scratch repeatedly. Each time I transferred from a high and even when I came to America, there were multiple instances where I felt alone and like an outcast. Each time I moved, there was a period where I was extremely uncomfortable and wanted to be everybody but myself. Each time I moved, a part of me died along with the friends, family, and comfortability that I left behind.
As I was going through the process of becoming, I did not what was happening nor, did I enjoy it. I wanted everything to go back to the way that it was and did not want anything to change. If I’m being honest, I hated the process and it made me miserable, but I endured it. I never lost faith and I always told myself that there would be a light at the end of the tunnel. Even though the tunnel was dark, I kept watering the seeds of my life and purposely engaged in activities that would encourage their growth. As I endured through each transition and stepped out of my comfort zone, I was feeding my passions, dreams, and goals. It is my passion to help people and my experiences have given me the knowledge to do that. Through each transition, I was able to learn more about others and myself which not only made me more self – aware but also enabled me to connect with others more easily. By being able connect easily with others, I outgrew my shyness. I dream of being able to give back to my community through advocacy, empowerment, knowledge and increased opportunities. My experiences have shaped those dreams and have allowed me to see the needs of my community. It is my goal to become the best version of myself that I can possibly be and I will only be able to achieve that if I am constantly undergoing a process of reflections and improvements after enduring different challenges and events.
These last couple of months have truly been a whirlwind for me and I can honestly say that I found myself in some situations that I never in a million years thought that I would be in. During this time, many tears were shed, and a lot of emotions ran rampant. During this time, a lot of relationships were tried and some even destroyed. During this time, I lost myself and forgot who I was. While some of you may or may not have an idea of what I’m talking, I am here to tell you all that the last couple of months has been the most difficult season of my life. I am also here to tell you all that I am glad that it happened. I am glad that I endured everything that I went through because I honestly believe that it made me a better individual. I am glad that I endured public scrutiny, spiritual discomfort, and difficult situations because I would not have learned the lessons that I did if I did not. I am glad that I trusted the process because even though I did not know where it was taking me, I never gave up hope and I continue to work through everything that was thrown at me. As I was reflecting on my experience, some key questions came to my mind such as:
Can you identify a defining moment in your life that helped you to become the person that you are today?
Many times, we say to ourselves that there are some things in life that happened to us that we would change if we could, but have you ever asked yourself if you would still be the same person today if you did?
Do you make it a habit to take time to reflect on both the negative and positive events in your life so that you can learn and grow from it? Or do you just move on and forget that it even happen?
Have you ever thought how your experiences might be helping to prepare you for your purpose in life and how whatever you are going through can feed your passions?
Our passions, dreams, and goals are the seeds of our lives that are nurtured by our experiences, values, and ideas. As we move through life, we learn and experience new things which help us to become better individuals and move one step to closer to reaping the harvest of our labor. The process is not easy, and it will push you to your limit, but you can overcome, and you will be better than you ever were when you do. As you are going through the process, it is okay to not know where you are going or why something is happening to you. Strive to learn from each experience and continuously work to encourage the growth of your passions, dreams, and goals. One day, you will reflect on how you lived, and you will be proud of yourself for preserving through those hard moments in your life. One day, you will reflect on the work that you did, and you will be proud of yourself for never losing focus. One day, you will reap the harvest and you will be proud of all the work that you did to arrive at that point. In the bible, Noah waited 120 years before the flood came while Abraham waited 25 years for a promised son because they trusted the process and were rewarded for their faith. You might not know why something is happening to you, but you can control your attitude and reaction to it. Always do your best and give it everything that you can because at the end of the day, trusting the process will lead to your nourishment. Just as how you have endured and grown thus far, so you shall continue to do. Just put in the work, reflect on your downfalls, be grateful for your high points and sit back while allowing the process to raise you up and help you to fulfill your purpose.
Blog Verse: “A man’s heart deviseth his way: But the Lord directeth his steps” Proverbs 16:9
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