Life is funny. It’s funny because you never want what’s given to you. We always lust after that which we cannot have. We always ignore those who give us everything they have. We realize what we have when it is no longer being offered to us. I guess that’s why the lust of worldly things is so frowned upon in the bible. I guess that’s why we never know what we have until we lose it.
But even though this phenomenon has plagued society for many years, have you ever thought about the source of this dichotomy?
Is it because of the fact that we rely too much on what others think of us instead of how we truly feel?
It is because most people don’t even know how they truly feel because they aren’t emotionally literate?
Is it because we all want the perfect guy or girl according to relevant social norms such as beauty, fashion and even personality?
Is it because we seek societal approval of our own relationships before we approve the relationship in respect to ourselves?
We all claim to love many of our romantic partners. But few of us actually do. Many of us need to ask ourselves whether we love the person or the idea of the person. And if we love the idea of the individual then where did this idea come from?
And is this idea more important than your own set of values, beliefs and compatibility?
Is this idea more valuable than your genuine and long term happiness?
Is this idea more important than the person who you are inherently?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then you aren’t ready for a healthy relationship. You aren’t because you don’t truly love yourself and your attachment will become a crutch instead of an elevator of personal development. Any relationship in my opinion should be a never-ending elevator towards personal development. It should lead to the mutual growth of both parties involved. It should be genuine and pure. It shouldn’t be rushed and forced. It should be sensational and ecstatic. It should be source of positivity and motivation instead of negativity and pessimism. It should be healthy rather than unhealthy. Which is why it is important for everyone to follow their heart and be true to themselves instead of worrying about others. At the end of the day, you are the one that has to deal with this person all the time which is why you should make a decision that will not drive you to insanity.