They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. But why should an individual’s beauty be placed in the hands of another. In the hands of someone other than themselves. In the hands of someone who has never lived a day in their shoes. Someone who does not know the true extent of their potential. Someone who knows not the experiences that have molded and shaped you. The experiences that have molded your mind and shaped your soul.
For true beauty isn’t that which one’s eyes may see. True beauty is the integrity of one’s soul. The acknowledgement and culmination of that which makes you unique. True beauty is the light that radiates from each and every one of us when we are true to ourselves. Sometimes we get caught up in a world that tries to mold us in its own definition of perfection. Sometimes we get caught up in how others perceive us instead of how we perceive ourselves. Sometimes we seek to be desired so bad that we allow others and society that mold us in a way that robs us of our uniqueness and beauty. Sometimes we let go of that which makes us unique and beautiful in order to gain approval from others.
God never intended for us to be no one but ourselves which is why no human being is the same as another human being. Evidence of this may be found in the simple fact that our fingerprints are not the same. There are over a 5 billion people in the world and not one individual has the same fingerprints as another. An individual does not even have the same fingerprints as their parents even though we are the closest to them in a biological sense. And if such a simple and a minute aspect of ourselves is so unique. Then why should any other aspect be normal or similar to that of another. If such a simple fact isn’t a testament to the unique beauty of every human being then I don’t know what is.
They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. But such a claim is made under the assumption that everyone is not unique in their own way. There is beauty in differences even though the society in which we live in praises certain types and shuns others. To place the value of your beauty in the eyes of the beholder is to deny the fact that you are innately beautiful and that you are one of a kind. To deny such things is to discredit the experiences, choices and individuals who have helped you become the person that you are today. And the person you are today is the person that you are meant to be today and not someone else. To discredit your experiences and choices is to deny your own beauty and exceptionalism. Every human being is exceptionally beautiful, smart and wonderful. No one should be compared to someone nor should anyone compare themselves to another because there is more to a person than the eye can see. So no, I don’t believe that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that no one should tell you otherwise.
Not society, not your parents, not your family, not your friends, not your significant other. And not yourself most importantly.
Strive to find your own beauty instead of allowing others to define it for you. I am not saying that it is easy and I know for sure that it is not simple because I am searching to find as well. Even though the journey to one’s own beauty may be long and rugged, I have a good feeling that it will be worth it.